Emile Coue was a French psychologist and pharmacist who introduced a popular method of psychotherapy and self-improvement based on auto suggestion or self suggestion.
He is mostly known for his famous autosuggestion “Every day, in every way, I am getting better and better.” He has cured countless men of their psychological and physiological diseases with just auto suggestion.
He has famously said “When the imagination and will power are in conflict, are antagonistic, it is always the imagination which wins, without any exception.”
But we go through lives using our weak will to fight strong habits and addictions which use our own imagination against us.
Countless people are quitting porn and masturbation countless times and relapsing again and again and again.
Do you know what the problem is?
It’s the use of will power more than the power of their imagination. How many times were you able to sleep using your will power to induce sleep, or how many times were you able to salivate by willing to salivate, or how many times were you able to rationalise your fears and phobias?
The answer? NONE.
Because imagination is way too powerful than the will power. You can use your imagination to imagine tasting a big lemon to induce salivation, or you can imagine drifting on a cloud or any other relaxing scenery to induce sleep.
Imagination is like a big powerful truck, and the willpower is like a steering wheel. A truck can run without a steering, but without the engine, its nothing.
Similarly, you can use your willpower to steer the course and use your imagination to power your goals to reach your destination. But if you use the willpower alone, you will not move an inch towards your destination.
You can decide to quit porn and masturbation, you can delete all your porn collection, burn every magazine and put porn filters on your device. But once the porn cravings kick in, they will use your imagination against you using the porn fantasies. At this moment, if you use your will power, you are sure to fail. But you can’t use your imagination too at this moment.
The only way out is to relapse.
Yes, you read it correctly, Relapse.
And once you have relapsed, you are at the best time to write down all the reasons you want to quit porn and masturbation. All the positive results you expect when you quit this addiction. Write down why you want to quit porn and masturbation, what it has done to your past and present and what it can do to your future.
Once you are done with the list, it’s time to get these things impressed on your mind and imagination or the visualisation is the best way to do it.
Impress your mind with the ideal life you want to have. Get this image completely impressed on your mind. Let is generate positive emotions in you. And the next time a porn craving creeps in, you just have to think about this image of your ideal life and the craving will just vanish away.